The Caregiver and the Hero: Who’s in the Driver’s Seat?
Six weeks after my husband's stem cell transplant in 2007, he drove our Subaru west on…
The Problem with Preferences
I saw a bluebird couple yesterday. “No, NO!” I wanted to yell. “Don’t sit on that…
Three Life-Affirming Lessons from Death
1. Death makes us value life The death of someone I love reminds me of my own impermanence. The…
Coming to Carry Him Home
After nearly three years of cancer therapy, my brother's body was exhausted. There were no more…
Planting Life at a Time of Sorrow
My brother Jim seemed steady and a little stronger last week. There was talk of…
Holding Hands on the Threshold between Life and Death
My brother’s cell phone sings its song. He slowly picks it up from the tray…
My Lover’s Mama and the Negative Mother Archetype
After I’d known him almost a year, Vic took me to Connecticut to meet his mother…
Poems to Soothe a Grieving Heart
Grieving allows us to heal, to remember with love rather than pain. It is a…
It Doesn’t Get Any Better Than This
The great secret of death, and perhaps its deeper connection with us, is this: that…
Two Goddesses and the Art of Friendship
Nearly two weeks ago, Jean Raffa and I taught our weekend workshop at the C.G. Jung Society…