Grief is a sacred journey

Family and Friends

When Death Is A Gentle Gift

97 1 “Her breath is changing,” a nurse said on the phone. “It’s hard to tell, but I’d come in if I were you.” When I saw my mother-in-law, still and ashen in her bed, I knew

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We Are Family: Strengthening Connections after a Dad’s Death

138 My son David and his wife Liz drove from North Carolina and met my local son Anthony for a beer at Two Goats Brewery on Seneca Lake before they arrived at my house. David and Liz

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Life Is Sweeter When We Keep Old Friendships Strong

94 100 June 2018 was “Friends Matter Month” in my quiet world. Usually, I crave silence and ample sleep and avoid large servings of chocolate cake and beer. I tossed the rules overboard in a friendship love

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When Life Has A Plan: Intuition, Synchronicity, & Love

141 In Honor of Our 50th Anniversary May 18, 1968 – 2018 By the time I was twenty, I was used to my mother living in a different country every year, knew what classes to take at

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Remembering Where We Belong

70 “Only from such a place of loss and longing can we begin remembering ourselves home.”                                 ~Toko-pa Turner, Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Back

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Message from My Wiser Self

49 Don’t worry when the logger leaves after one day. Be glad he cares about the forest. Be glad he’s upset when his equipment makes ruts in the unfrozen earth beneath the snow. Let the Finger Lakes

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A Mother’s Lament: “I Loved Him with All My Heart”

92 My mother-in-law Virginia was present during every conversation the last few weeks. She was alert when the public health nurse evaluated her condition and approved the application for skilled nursing care. She watched her health aide

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I’m Moving Your Mother to a Nursing Home: Active Imagination during Hard Times

147 Dear Vic, I can’t take care of your mother anymore. I can’t keep giving her the precious energy I need for my own life. I have to face that she’s almost out of money to pay

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The Wisdom of Regret: A Lesson in Showing Up

96 I remember the tense discomfort of my flimsy excuse, but don’t recall just what it was. I remember the relief of avoiding being face-to-face with a dying person. In 1991, I hadn’t learned to sit with

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Ten Things That Made Me Grateful This Year (Photo Essay)

48   1. My Loving Family 2. The Women’s March in Washington, DC, January 2017                   3. Bluebirds with Five Healthy Nestlings              

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