Grief is a sacred journey

Bereavement and End of Life

Love Notes: The Magic That Made Our Marriage Work

260 During an exhausting week of moving my husband Vic’s 102-year-old mother to a nursing home, I searched through an old file cabinet looking for a paper needed to fill out her insurance forms. I hadn’t visited

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The Wisdom of Regret: A Lesson in Showing Up

96 I remember the tense discomfort of my flimsy excuse, but don’t recall just what it was. I remember the relief of avoiding being face-to-face with a dying person. In 1991, I hadn’t learned to sit with

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Sorrow in the Dark Season

82 On mid November days, loneliness and hopelessness descend like evening fog. Is it the darkness, the limited light and long nights? Maybe, but my inner gloom lifts in December. When I first explored these feelings in

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When Heartbreak Becomes A Second Chance

226 I didn’t want a second chance. I liked my first option, the married life I’d worked on and loved for forty years. My husband Vic and I called our relationship “the Path of Marriage.” In 1967,

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Clutched: An Essential Lesson from Psyche’s Fourth Labor

358 1 My mother-in-law grabbed my wrist with her gnarled hand, the way a drowning person grasps a life preserver. “I’m scared,” she said. She was lying in her bed. She’d been frantic all day, up last

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Forgiveness Revisited: Resolving Old Resentments

137 1 My son’s partner Jenna had a dream last month. In her dream, My mother-in-law Virginia is dead. Jenna wipes Virginia’s face with a warm wet cloth and Virginia’s eyes pop open. Alive! Jenna is upset

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6 Ways to Invite Love to a Death Anniversary

612 2 “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within  yourself that have been built against it.” ~Rumi On June 3, the ninth anniversary of my husband

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I Will Help You: Palliative Care Support Before Hospice

191 1 I asked my mother-in-law’s doctor to order a palliative care consultation when we saw him a few weeks ago. Our local Hospicare has a program called PATH (Personal Attention to Health). I was desperate for help and

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Everything Leads to You

141 5 “This much I know. Everything leads to You.” Deborah Gregory, “In Full Flower” from A Liberated Sheep in a Post Shepherd World *** You were in my dream last night, healthy, waving from across the

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Three Little Love Stories on the Anniversary of A Brother’s Death

107 1950 Jim and I sat in the backseat, our faces out opposite windows. The wind dried our sweat into salty white stains. Daddy was sick, so our parents had pulled a tiny Airstream to Arizona for a virus-free winter. We

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