Grief is a sacred journey


Goodbye to Her Little Sister: Helping a Grieving Elder

Helen, Virginia, and Rose (L-R), 2002

When the overnight aide arrived at 10 pm, Virginia wasn’t asleep in her bed. She wasn’t in her apartment or down the hall in the sitting area or anywhere obvious. After a frantic search, the aide found […]

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Sandtray: Getting through Hard Times with Imagination and Play

a few favorite sandtray figures

A dear friend wrote me a letter after she read my last blog. Along with her usual wise reflections, she said, “…yesterday’s blog is so lonely–for Vic, for your brother–and filled with the stress of your Mother-in-law’s care […]

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A Good Hurt: Choosing to Remember Those We Miss


…there comes a time when, long after loss has been well-lived…, a small melody of love always returns.”  Dreamwork with Toko-Pa  For the seventh year, I gathered candles and evergreens for a Solstice Ritual. My son, daughter-in-law, […]

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May There Be Peace on Earth

holiday meme

Someday soon we all will be together If the fates allow Until then, we’ll muddle through somehow.* *Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas” (lyrics by Hugh Martin & Ralph Blane, 1944) I recommend the article Have Yourself a […]

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Winter Solstice: Rituals of Grief, Hope, and Laughter

A solemn Solstice  in 2009

In 2009, the year after my husband Vic’s death, my sons and I created a solstice ritual. In Solstice Blessings: A Family Ritual of Remembrance and Love, I wrote about that first of many rituals of love and remembrance. We were on […]

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The Woman in My Dreams


In the dark days before Winter Solstice, I take stock of where I am and wonder where I’m going. December questions match the season and my time of life. How will I spend my precious days this year? What […]

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Hearing the Poet’s Heart

Joyce Holmes McAllister (The Healing Muse)

I sat in the front row of Weiskotten Hall in Syracuse, NY, just a few seats from the poet Joyce McAllister. We’d come for the launch party of The Healing Muse 2016. I came to read my prose piece about […]

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Dear Anxiety: It’s Time for A Heart-to-Heart Talk


I know you’re scared. How could I not know when I wake up in the night with a knot of fear in my gut? I know you’re worried about the world. I know you’re uneasy about a […]

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When Forgiveness Requires Patience


“Instead of getting angry, nurture a deep caring and respect for troublemakers because by creating such trying circumstances they provide us with invaluable opportunities to practice tolerance and patience.” ― Dalai Lama “She’s amazing,” the nurse practitioner said […]

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The Girl Who Believed in Good Government

DAR Good Citizen, 1967 (Detroit Free Press)

On election night, I went to bed before 10 p.m. My breath was shallow. My belly tight. Reading didn’t help. I got up and took Ambien. Damn this election and the fear-mongering headlines. I awoke at 2 a.m. […]

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