1. Pray or meditate—in your own way or according to your spiritual or religious tradition. Consider spending part of each day in silence rather than seeking constant distraction. Meditation and prayer comfort us. In silence, we honor
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This is the second of three Survival Guides. The first focused on Body and the next will be about Spirit. 1. Share your grief with close friends. Steve said my grief allowed him to feel his own
Read more →Christmas often feels frantic and commercial instead of spiritual. New Year’s is party time. At Winter Solstice, I feel the peace of Nature’s dark pause and the gift of returning light. It’s my favorite winter holiday. Since
Read more →What if Vic’s cancer had been caught earlier? What if the diagnosis was a mistake? Maybe he was sick because of foot x-rays in his childhood shoe stores or the irradiation of a scar on his neck
Read more →Don’t run away from grief, o soul, Look for the remedy inside the pain, because the rose came from the thorn and the ruby came from a stone. ~ Rumi The weight of my husband Vic’s death
Read more →My legs ache and a blister throbs, but I don’t stop or slow down. I focus on the copper vessel ahead of me with its beaded red cloth cover. It holds water collected four days ago at
Read more →After the last meeting of our four-week bereavement support group, participants talk in groups of two or three in the parking lot. We said our formal goodbye 30 minutes ago, but they’re still laughing, weeping, and sharing
Read more →“They’re all wounded,” I thought as I watched people in the grocery store or on the street, “but I can’t see their scars and they can’t see mine.” While anxiously awaiting my husband Vic’s cancer diagnosis in
Read more →I lean into Vic, tucking my shoulder under his arm. Feeling me tremble, he unzips his jacket and wraps it around both of us. I’d rather be in bed, pressed against his naked body, but instead I’m
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