Grief is a sacred journey

Spirituality

The Copper Vessel: Prayer Walk for a Gas Free Seneca

My legs ache and a blister throbs, but I don’t stop or slow down.  I focus on the copper vessel ahead of me with its beaded red cloth cover. It holds water collected four days ago at

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After the Last Bereavement Gathering

As I left the parking lot half an hour after the last meeting of Standing in Our New Lives—a four-week bereavement support group for women who have lost their spouses or partners—group participants spoke quietly outside in

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The Wounds We Carry: Help from Pema Chodron’s Tonglen Practice

“They’re all wounded,” I thought as I watched people in the grocery store or on the street, “but I can’t see their scars and they can’t see mine.” While anxiously awaiting my husband Vic’s cancer diagnosis in

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Make Love Not War: 1967

I lean into Vic, tucking my shoulder under his arm. Feeling me tremble, he unzips his jacket and wraps it around both of us. I’d rather be in bed, pressed against his naked body, but instead I’m

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Sunshine on the Wedding: June 2013

We wake up to blue skies, our weather prayers answered. Friends arrive to do the set-up postponed by yesterday’s storm. Men roll up the sides of the reception tent to air out the sandy soil and then

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Permeated by Peace: In the Dalai Lama’s Presence, 1989

A friend with connections told us to gather near a small gray door in the back of the Santa Monica Civic Auditorium before 7 a.m. After a guard turned the lock, we filed into an empty auditorium

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Gratitude and Grief: Healing Ideas from Paul Bennett’s Loving Grief

It was easy to feel gratitude for our close marriage when my husband Vic was alive. Whether we were in a chemotherapy treatment room, in the stem cell transplant unit, or struggling with illness at home, we

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Befriending Myself: Rescued by Pema Chodron

“There is more to life than this dark gloom,” I wrote. I was sinking under the weight of my widow’s life with no sweet husband to listen to my smallest fears, to care if my belly ached

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Ganesha: Patron of Writers and Lord of Beginnings

In 1994, my husband Vic received another rejection letter for his book Synchronicity, Science, and Soulmaking. He added the latest rebuff to a small stack of rejections sitting under the feet of a jade elephant statue on

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Solstice Blessings: A Family Ritual of Remembrance and Love

On the shortest day of 2010 when my sons were home to celebrate the holidays, I took a clipper and cloth bag on my morning forest walk and gathered evergreen boughs and pinecones. I picked up small

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