Grief is a sacred journey

Psychology and Mythology

She’s Seven Now: When Dreams Lead the Way

On June 3, I planned a quiet day to take stock of my life. It was the seventh anniversary of my husband Vic’s death. I wrote about the ritual aspects of the day in a previous blog, […]

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When Tears Tell the Truth

We met at the beginning of my senior year in 1966. I was a government major at Cornell focusing on South East Asia and China. The more war protests Vic and I attended and the more sunsets we […]

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A Message from the Moon: Synchronicity as Inner Guide

I’m in a small country church. Someone turns off the electric lights. The full moon illuminates the chapel with soft apricot-toned light. Then they open a window to let night air in. I feel lonely for Vic […]

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I Thought I Could

My flight home from Florida was threatened by another winter storm on the east coast. How I miss my husband Vic at times like this. “It’s in the hands of nature and United Air,” he would say, “so we […]

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My Lover’s Secret

“What did you do before you came to Cornell?” I asked. We sat on his couch, drank red wine, and listened to Buffy St. Marie on the stereo. He was sturdy and muscular with dark curls. My heart had […]

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Let the Warm Love Flow: Messages from Marion Woodman

Marion Woodman‘s last letter came in February 2011, almost three years after my husband Vic’s death. I first met her in 1988 and we had corresponded since 2003. In the last years, her neat and orderly letters […]

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Widow Misses Sparring Partner

Woman Misses Fighting with Dead Husband. That’s a headline for The Inquirer. “E, leave me alone,” Vic said. I watched his cheek muscles twitch and his jaw clench. He pulled his office door toward him to shut […]

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Languages of Love: Essential Marriage Skills 101

“Have you heard about The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman?” our dear friend Richard asked as we soaked naked in their hot tub and talked about life with Richard and his wife. The summer night was cool; […]

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Finding Balance during Grief: Healing Dreams and Creativity

I try out for a team that demands gymnastic skills. I do a handstand, shocked by my ability and strength.  I’m told to hold this position, as though I am an antenna tuned into an important station. […]

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Pause Before Shrieking: Essential Marriage Skills 101

“What the hell did you do to my forsythia?” I screeched. “We agreed it was too big. It took over the whole yard,” Vic said. “You’re being a bitch.” “That was my bush. You didn’t ask me.” […]

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